HOW TO CREATE FAITH/TRUST IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Most people are afraid of revealing their true inner sides in love.

At first, the guy and the girl are scared to kiss, and then they’re scared to go to second base, and then to the third.

Once they get past that, life gets a bit manageable and both of you start to open up with each other.

The body exploration is followed with drunken hangovers and awkward moments like untimely burps and dirty underwear. And then comes the first snore which is quite funny.

And yeah, we have the first fart. This is a difficult barrier to break, farting in front of a lover, and don’t we all know this. Once we’re comfortable with the fart, there’s really no stopping it!

It’s all funny and nice. But do you realize the one thing that matters here?

Every single incident that happened here didn’t happen just like that. Every single step took a little bit of trust that eventually accumulated into the comfort of the first noisy fart.

Once you know how to build trust in a relationship, the relationship enters the next little stage and gets that much happier and relaxed.

But somewhere along the way, people get comfortable physically and in a few other aspects, and soon enough, that’s where the comfortable and relaxed stage stops. At some point in a relationship, you stop sharing a few details with your partner. And that’s just wrong, so wrong. For a relationship to be successful, that should never happen.

Why is trust so important?

I f you think about it, why are you afraid of sharing all your thoughts with your partner? Probably because a few of your thoughts are immoral, too dirty, too stupid or perhaps, you’re afraid your partner will judge you negatively or even get hurt emotionally.

Simply put, you don’t trust your partner and your relationship enough to share your deepest, darkest secrets because you don’t trust your lover enough to unburden your thoughts or deeds onto their shoulder.

Being judged in a relationship

Most of us are very guarded in a relationship, especially when it comes to matters that are taboo in a relationship. And we do that because we’re afraid our partner might judge us negatively.

You discreetly stare at someone across the street, you take a stolen glance at an underwear model, and you wonder what your old college sweetheart is doing right now, but you don’t reveal these thoughts to your lover because you don’t want your partner to look at you in a negative light.

You want to appear your best when it comes to fidelity and true love. But have you ever considered this, you partner does have the same straying thoughts on their mind at times too. It’s natural, we’re all human and to admire someone else is natural.

The loss of communication

As the years pass by, these little thoughts get more and more suppressed, and these stupid thoughts start to become a fantasy getaway. And all this starts only because you assumed the secret thought was too taboo to talk about in the relationship in the first place. You know the logic here, you tell a child not to touch something and walk out of the room, and that’s the first thing the child would want to touch.

So by hiding a few details about how you feel or what you think, you’re actually distancing yourself from your lover, and living more in your fantasy world of people-watching-and-desiring or wanting to spend time doing something else.

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