EASY WAYS TO REDUCE RISK IN LOVE



Conflicts and differences between two people in relationships are inevitable whether it's romantic relationships, parent-child relationships and even the workplace. The reasons for the differences in relationships are clear; that these people have come from and grew up in different contexts and so their characteristics and characteristics must vary.


In this situation conflicts and misunderstandings are sometimes the things that occur and require special tactics and strategies to deal with this problem.


1. Being the first to act
When a breakup occurs between the two people the communication is usually broken or difficult and bad. Each one may be offended by the other. For lovers this situation can be even more painful as it involves emotions to a large extent; it is your responsibility to teach silence and to be able to bring about reconciliation.


Find a place and ask to discuss and talk about your differences.


2. Start by looking at your mistake first
It is common in quarrels and conflicts for one to regard the other as the culprit, and forget that the mistake may be on their side as well. If the issue bothers another, there may be a problem from you as well, or maybe he or she sees a problem on your side.


To realize that you need to first check yourself and listen to your partner as to how they are feeling. If you find there is a problem on your side as well then it's time to apologize for your position first.


3. Listen carefully to the problem and the perspective from the other side - put on his shoes
It is said that the main cause of the conflict and strife is that we want to talk more than listen to the other side, and in doing so we become selfish.


If you listen carefully from the other side and try to hear their feelings you may look at the matter in another way that will lead to compromise. It is very important to show that you care about her feelings.


4. Being truthful with what you are saying from the heart
The mouth can say anything without saying it, it really comes from the heart. When you say something emotionally and sincerely you feel more. Speak from the heart and mean what you say and the result will be good.


5. Be proactive in solving the problem and not blaming The
blame does not help to bring the solution to the problem before you.


Instead of blaming it it is better to look at the problem itself and its root.


6. Focus on finding common ground and not ending all differences
It is not easy to resolve your differences because they are two people from different backgrounds, but agree on how you will live in peace and respect each other's feelings and positions.


Be prepared to agree to disagree in some respects. Harmony is the key to reconciliation.


7. Focus on proving what is right and who is not right.
In a conflict it is not right to call someone wrong, because the first is that you may be wrong but the second is that it is firing missiles that will make the other defensive and thus not reaching a compromise.


 The last thing to consider When
looking for a solution to a conflict or conflict in relationships is to focus on two main things, to eliminate selfishness and condescension. Because the lack of these two factors is the main cause of all the differences.


And the foundation lies in listening to another's feelings. Listening is better than saying, when you listen you show more care and it becomes easier to reach a compromise and end conflict and tension in any relationship.


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